Organic chemistry has a fearsome reputation, earned almost entirely by being taught as memorization. Students try to cram hundreds of reactions as isolated facts, drown, and conclude they are bad at it. The truth is the opposite: organic chemistry is deeply logical once you learn to think in terms of electrons and mechanisms. Get that mindset first and the reactions organize themselves.
That is why order matters so much here. Begin by building the reasoning skills and the language of mechanisms, then master the three-dimensional structure that governs everything, then advance to the strategy of real synthesis. Skip the foundation and the later material is impossible; build it and the later material is a natural extension.
Learn to think, not memorize
Start with Organic Chemistry As a Second Language, First Semester Topics by David Klein, which is explicitly designed to teach the reasoning behind the reactions rather than the reactions alone — the single best antidote to memorization panic. Then work through Organic chemistry by Clayden, the celebrated comprehensive textbook that explains why reactions happen, using mechanism as the organizing principle throughout.
Master three-dimensional structure
Molecules are objects in space, and their shape determines their behavior. Stereochemistry of Organic Compounds by Eliel is the definitive treatment of chirality, conformation, and configuration, and Organic Stereochemistry by Kaloustian reinforces the same spatial reasoning that students most often find slippery. This stage is what turns flat drawings into real molecules in your mind.
Advance to synthesis and strategy
With mechanism and structure solid, go deeper. March's advanced organic chemistry is the encyclopedic reference for reactions and their mechanisms — the book you consult for the rest of your career. Arrow-Pushing in Organic Chemistry by Levy drills the electron-pushing notation that expresses every mechanism, making it second nature. Finally, tackle synthesis: Strategic applications of named reactions in organic synthesis by Kürti catalogs the named reactions as strategic tools, and Classics in total synthesis by Nicolaou walks through landmark syntheses that show how it all combines into art.
Follow the path in order and organic chemistry stops being a memory test and becomes a logic you can wield.