Two problems get confused constantly here, and almost every wasted pound in this hobby comes from the confusion. Treating a room — absorbers, bass traps, diffusion — changes how it sounds inside and does essentially nothing for isolation. Isolating a room is a construction problem involving mass, decoupling and airtightness, and it costs an order of magnitude more. Foam panels do not stop your neighbour hearing the drums; they were never going to.
Start with F. Alton Everest's Master Handbook of Acoustics, the reference the field starts from and unusually readable for one: room modes, reverberation time, absorbers, diffusion and small-room behaviour, with the mathematics kept to what you need. Read the small-room chapters first, since those are the ones that apply to a spare bedroom. It assumes no more than secondary-school physics and comfort with a logarithm.
How rooms and ears behave
Half of what people call a room problem is a perception effect, and Howard and Angus's Acoustics and Psychoacoustics is the book that tells you which half. It pairs the physics of sound in rooms with masking, localisation and the precedence effect. It is a university textbook and assumes you can follow an equation, but it explains rather than derives.
Floyd Toole's Sound reproduction is the corrective to a great deal of confident folklore in the studio-building literature. Toole's research at the National Research Council and Harman is the strongest evidence base anyone has on how rooms and loudspeakers interact and what listeners actually prefer in blind tests, and it assumes only that you are willing to have a belief overturned. Read it before you spend money, not after.
Treating the room you have
Everest's Sound studio construction on a budget is the practical companion to his handbook: real rooms, real budgets, buildable absorbers and traps, 298 pages. It sits first in this stage because it keeps treatment separate from construction, which is the distinction the whole path turns on.
Rod Gervais's Home Recording Studio, published as Home Recording Studio: Build It Like the Pros, is written by a builder rather than an engineer and is blunt about what works: mass, decoupling and airtightness for isolation, mineral wool rather than foam for treatment. It is the most useful single book for a domestic room.
Cox and D'Antonio's Acoustic absorbers and diffusers is the specialist text on the two devices everything else tells you to install — how porous, membrane and Helmholtz absorbers actually work, and what a diffuser is doing. It is the most technical book in this stage, assumes wave acoustics and complex impedance, and is for designing treatment rather than copying a plan.
Isolation and building the room
Jeff Cooper's Building a recording studio is the 1978 book that taught a generation the room-within-a-room principle and the arithmetic of transmission loss. Dated on equipment, still correct on structure. Philip Newell's Recording Studio Design is far more demanding at 846 pages, argues from measured results, and says where the received wisdom is wrong. Marshall Long's Architectural acoustics is the professional consultant's text: partitions, floating floors, HVAC noise, flanking transmission and the rating systems specifications are written in. Read Long for the parts of a building that quietly ruin a good design — ducts, doors and joints.
Noise control as an engineering discipline
This is where the subject stops being about listening rooms. Bies and Hansen's Engineering Noise Control is the standard text: sources, paths, receivers, enclosures, mufflers, vibration isolation and the criteria that noise limits are set by. It assumes an engineering degree. Randall Barron's Industrial Noise Control and Acoustics is more worked-example driven and better if you want to calculate an enclosure's insertion loss rather than derive it. Crocker's Handbook of noise and vibration control is a 1,600-page edited reference covering community noise, transport, hearing damage and instrumentation; it is not a book to read through, but the right thing to own when a specific problem lands.
The physics underneath
Heinrich Kuttruff's Room acoustics is the scholarly treatment — wave, geometric and statistical approaches to sound in enclosures — and it is honest about where Sabine's formula stops being valid, which is precisely why small rooms misbehave in ways the handbooks only describe. Kinsler and Frey's Fundamentals of acoustics is the classic undergraduate text from first principles, and it reads far better last than first, because by then everything earlier is visibly an application of it.
The staged order, with lengths and dates, is on the room acoustics and noise control path.